{"id":4340,"date":"2016-07-13T09:11:11","date_gmt":"2016-07-13T17:11:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.danamackenzie.com\/blog\/?p=4340"},"modified":"2016-07-13T10:01:34","modified_gmt":"2016-07-13T18:01:34","slug":"my-life-story-in-black-and-white","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/danamackenzie.com\/blog\/?p=4340","title":{"rendered":"My Life Story, in Black and White"},"content":{"rendered":"

Warning:<\/em> Going way off topic for this post. I’m not talking “black and white” as in chess pieces, I’m talking about it as in people. This is something I don’t do very often because people, unlike chess pieces, are not defined by their color. However, the things that have happened in the U.S. over the last week or so have made me want to say… something. Anything that can possibly increase understanding.<\/p>\n

But I don’t want to talk politics, so I’m left with telling my individual experiences with black and white, which have been regrettably few.<\/p>\n

I. It’s 1963, I’m 4 years old and going to pre-school. (Called “nursery school” back then.) My mother asks me what I think about the “colored” girl in my class. “Do you mean red? Blue?” I ask her. “There aren’t any red or blue people in my class.” At age 4, I am completely unaware of the difference between races. It was probably the last time.<\/p>\n

II. It’s 1969. My family moves to Indiana, and my parents buy a house in an “integrated” neighborhood. In retrospect, I imagine that the huge house with seven bathrooms and a spiral staircase would have cost much more in a “white” neighborhood than an integrated one. Our next-door neighbors are black. Our relations are cordial but not close; I remember that when I was asked to sell magazine subscriptions as a class project for school, they bought one.<\/p>\n

III. It’s 1971. My sister’s first boyfriend — okay, first serious<\/em> boyfriend — is black. This is probably my first chance to really get to know a black person. He comes over to our house a lot; if memory serves correctly (and it may not),\u00a0his home environment is not so stable\u00a0and he really loves being with our family. He calls my mother “the Ur<\/em>-mother.” I think that being around my sister and parents makes him more serious about school, and\u00a0maybe helps him get his life on track. He goes to college at Amherst, but my sister is still in high school. Like most\u00a0long distance relationships, it doesn’t work. I don’t know what became of him after that.<\/p>\n

IV. It’s 1977, my junior year in college. A black student whom I knew slightly is running for student body president, and for some reason I decide to go all-in and help with his campaign.\u00a0Like Obama, he’s\u00a0a guy who is black but\u00a0to the best of his ability\u00a0avoids making\u00a0race a campaign issue. His big issue is the lack of a student body constitution. Unfortunately, that issue is a complete\u00a0snooze and he loses the election. I decide that I’m not cut out for politics.<\/p>\n

But one mind-altering thing happens during this period.\u00a0I go to a “black” event of some kind, maybe a gospel concert, and I\u00a0am the only white (or nearly the only one) in an auditorium of black people. That had never happened before in my life, and I was very surprised by my reaction. It was an almost physical sense of pressure, conspicuousness, vulnerability. Until then I had thought that I was basically color-blind, but I realized that I was not. After that experience, which was only one hour in an all-black setting, I had a whole new respect for people like my sister’s ex-boyfriend, black people who are struggling every day and every hour\u00a0to fit into a mostly-white world.<\/p>\n

V. It’s 1985. I’m now an assistant professor at Duke University, which in case you didn’t know is in the south. Durham is a city with a very strong black community, which is mostly on the east side of town. Duke is, of course, on the west side.<\/p>\n

Once a week I volunteer for Meals on Wheels, and my usual route takes me through a mostly black neighborhood. I love driving for Meals on Wheels, and it\u00a0is probably my first chance\u00a0ever to make friends with\u00a0some older black people. One thing that’s totally clear is that “black people” is not a single, monolithic concept. They’re all different. There’s the ultra-conservative fire-and-brimstone preacher who is a big fan of Jesse Helms (or “Hellums,” as he pronounces it). There’s the tiny humpbacked woman who crocheted a blanket as a wedding present for me and my wife, which I still have. There’s a 90-year-old woman whom I delivered a meal to only one time (she was not on my regular route), who said words I’ll never forget: “I may not hear too good, and I may not see too good, but there’s nobody happier than I am to be alive.”<\/p>\n

The very first person on my weekly route is a blind woman who talks with Jesus. She persuades me to come to her church one week, an African Methodist Episcopal (A.M.E.) church, a big denomination in North Carolina that I had never heard of before moving there.\u00a0I feel just as uncomfortable and conspicuous there as I did at the concert in college. I sit way in the back, and there is no one within ten feet of me on either side. But then the preacher does a marvelous thing. Without looking my direction, he says, “I see some gaps out there, could we fill them in?” And soon there are people sitting next to me.<\/p>\n

I’ve only been to two church services in my adult life. Maybe it’s good I’ve been to so few, because it means I still remember the sermon that day. The biblical text is Luke 19:5.\u00a0A man named Zacchaeus goes to see Jesus and climbs up into a sycamore tree to watch him pass.\u00a0Luke writes: “And when Jesus came to the place, he looked up, and saw him, and said unto him, Zacchaeus, make haste, and come down; for today I must abide at thy house.” The preacher emphasizes the words “make haste,” and says that the meaning is that we must make haste<\/em> to invite Jesus into our lives; we can’t wait around until tomorrow.<\/p>\n

At a certain point in the service, newcomers and visitors are asked to introduce themselves and say what church they went to. I say, “I don’t go to church regularly,” which I’m afraid was a bit of a lie, because the truth was I didn’t go to church ever<\/em>. I’m not\u00a0a religious person or even a Christian except in a vague cultural sense. But that just seemed too harsh a thing to say in front of a room full of Christians. What was I supposed to do?<\/p>\n

I also remember the gospel choir, who sing music that is so inspiring that it feels as if someone had poured fizzy water into your veins. At the end of the service, everybody is asked to shake hands with their neighbors, something that would have been challenging if they were still ten feet away from me. After the service I\u00a0go down to the front row, where the blind woman was sitting, and thank her for inviting me. By the way, she never invited me again.<\/p>\n

VI. It’s 2016. After\u00a0we got married, Kay and I moved to a lily-white town in rural Ohio. The people there were so homogeneous that even having black hair (as opposed to blond or brown) is different and\u00a0unusual. Then we moved to Santa Cruz, California,\u00a0which also\u00a0does not have very much of a black population, in spite of being an ultra-liberal college town politically. So for all these years, I have had almost no interaction with black people. Not a single close friend of mine is black. Not a single Facebook friend of mine is black.\u00a0I realize that I live a somewhat impoverished existence, but I don’t see anything that I can do about it. You can’t just go up to someone and say, “I want to get to know you because you’re black.” It has to happen naturally.<\/p>\n

So here we are, and like Zacchaeus I’m still up in a tree, watching from a distance, with nobody saying, “I must abide at thy house.” We all live in our own houses, and it’s more comfortable that way, but it means that we don’t get to talk very much.<\/p>\n

A couple years ago the Black Lives Matter movement starts to be a thing, and then last week the killings by police in Baton Rouge and St. Paul happen. The revenge killings of police by a lone gunman\u00a0in Dallas happen. Suddenly, at least on social media, race relations are a very big thing.<\/p>\n

Last night I\u00a0am watching “Sports Nation,” usually one of the funniest shows on TV,\u00a0but it takes a much more serious turn. The four hosts start talking about two recent\u00a0items of sports news: 1) A group that sang the Canadian national anthem at the baseball All-Star Game replaced one of the normal lines of the song with “all lives matter” (which has become a common rebuttal to “black lives matter”).\u00a0It causes a storm of controversy in Canada, though not so much in the U.S. because\u00a0no Americans know the words to the Canadian anthem. The\u00a0group later\u00a0apologizes and blames\u00a0the change\u00a0on one member. 2) Four off-duty policemen who work as security guards at Minnesota Lynx games (a Women’s NBA basketball team) walked off their security guard jobs to protest the players wearing t-shirts with “Black Lives Matter” on them.<\/p>\n

The two black hosts of “Sports Nation,” Michael Smith and Marcellus Wiley, speak very\u00a0articulately and (surprise!) they do not completely agree. (See above: “black people” is not a single entity.)\u00a0Wiley says that he doesn’t like the “Black Lives Matter” slogan either, because it’s missing a word: The meaning of the phrase is “black lives matter, too<\/em>.” I think this is a pretty important point. The first hundred times I read “black lives matter,” I interpreted it to mean “only<\/em> black lives matter” or “black lives matter more<\/em>.” It made me rather unenthusiastic about this movement. That’s the problem with living in a place with no black people and having no black friends; there was no one who could explain to me\u00a0what the slogan was really supposed to mean, and why.<\/p>\n

Smith, on the\u00a0other hand,\u00a0doesn’t care\u00a0as much about the semantics. He says he was “disappointed” in the action of the security guards because they forgot that the police<\/em> serve the community<\/em> rather than vice versa.<\/p>\n

My take is that words do matter, slogans matter, symbols matter. But there’s no way to change the slogan now; it has a life of its own. Over time, if the lines of communication stay open, people will come to understand what the words mean.<\/p>\n

Also, actions speak louder than words. A couple days ago I did a Google search for “peaceful protest.” I was blown away by the number of peaceful<\/em> protests that took place\u00a0last weekend, in places I didn’t even know about. I made a partial list of them for a Facebook post:<\/p>\n

Peaceful — Oklahoma City, Atlanta, Greensboro, Boston, Montgomery, Winston-Sa…lem, San Francisco, Los Angeles, Baltimore, Memphis, Buffalo, Charlotte, Denver, Miami, Detroit, Tupelo, Chicago, Omaha, New Orleans, Bismarck, Houston, Springfield, Evansville, Portland (ME), Dothan, Mansfield, York, Valencia, Louisville\u00a0… Probably many more, but that was just the first 10 pages of Google hits.<\/p>\n

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Not peaceful — Dallas, St. Paul, Baton Rouge, Rochester<\/p>\n

Not sure — Phoenix, Greenville<\/p>\n

The trouble is that when a protest remains peaceful, it makes the local news. When something goes wrong, it makes the national news. To keep a sense of balance, we still have to talk with one another <\/em>at the local level, and\u00a0better still\u00a0at the ultra-local level, in person<\/em>. It’s a pity that this simple thing\u00a0still seems so hard to do.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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